Three Tips For Going Through Separation And Divorce

The divorce process is rough, but so too are the precursors leading up to it. For many people, these precursors include legal separation. If you are going to take it upon yourself to seek a legal separation from your marriage, there are some incredibly important tips that you will want to keep in mind. In order to get the most out of this process, and to turn it into a fruitful divorce session afterward, follow this guide. 

Tip #1: Avoid Making Your Separation Public

It is easy to pick up the phone, or worse, run to social media, when your marriage is on the rocks. The problem with sharing this news with people out of frustration is that they will have their own opinions and advice, even if the two of you end up reconciling. This may also hurt your business prospects, as personal news quickly turns into gossip. When you need to be sure that you are able to keep the outside influences out, perhaps you should instead keep your venting to one or two safe people, and leave the rest of the public out of it. 

Tip #2: Don't Move Out Of Your Place Without Talking To A Lawyer

The worst thing you can do is move out of your home without first getting some legal advice. The reason for this is that depending on what state you live in, the courts might consider your moving out as a signal that you are abandoning the household and the property, even if it is property that you would otherwise be entitled to. Some states, such as Florida, don't have laws pertaining to abandoning the home. A divorce attorney or family law firm will know the laws of your state and will be able to guide you accordingly, to prevent these mistakes from occurring. 

Tip #3: Seek Out Some Counseling Help 

Instead of walking around the house giving each other the silent treatment, sign up for counseling as you enter a legal separation. Best scenario is that the two of you reopen the lines of communication, figure out the problem and reconcile, determined to work on them. Worst case scenario is that the two of you learn that the marriage can't be fixed and move forward with divorce, but maybe also enjoy some closure in the process. A study shows that some 98 percent of people who receive such counseling had a positive experience with the service. Because of this, it is never a bad thing to attempt to fix some things through professional counseling. 

Follow these three tips and make sure to reach out to a divorce lawyer (like those at the Law Office of Shelli Wright Johnson) for further help.